Already a Buzz!

We are already getting people interested in the church, and we are not even there yet. To everybody in Orange Co. NY, Hope Baptist Church is going to be a place of excitement and somewhere you can get help. There are a lot of different churches out there, but Hope is a different church. Come and hear a message straight from the Word of God, no beating around the bush, just straight forward talk and realness. No one here hiding behind a clerical facade. Hope is coming to Middletown.

Wayne

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On Our Way

As I wrote in my last post, our house sold. Just to let everyone in Middletown know my wife and I will be heading up that way to look for a place to live. If anyone there knows of anything please let us know. We are so excited about starting the church. I want to invite any and everybody who would like to be a part of a new and exciting church to contact me at wayne@hope.fm or at my temporary number 770-880-4417.

Wayne

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House Sold

Today we got the call that we have a closing date on our house. Praise the Lord!!! I want to say thank you to everyone who has been praying. Although it seemed like a long time, I know that it is all in God’s timing. My mind now goes to Middletown, the YMCA where we will be meeting,  all of the people in Orange County NY, and the surrounding ares. Please continue to pray for us that we will be sensitive to God’s voice and direction now that we will be starting the Hope Baptist Church.

Wayne

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Dealing With Conflict

Anyone who is a leader will at one time or another have to deal with conflict. As pastors, I think we deal with it probably more than others. We are leading hundreds of different people with different personalities, and different views. Like it or not, there will be conflict.

You can’t avoid conflict, but conflict can define your time as a leader. At Revolution, I have dealt with conflict numerous times and I live by some principles that I have discovered that have helped me deal with these issues, so I thought I would pass them on there since this is one of the questions I get a lot from other pastors.

• Realize Conflict Isn’t A Bad Thing – When we hear the word conflict, we automatically think negative. Conflict can be a good thing.  It resolves issues and gets issues taken care of.
• Run to confrontation – We RUN to conflict.  Guys are so afraid to confront people that they will let problem people hang around causing trouble for too long.  When we hear of an issue we waste no time confronting and dealing with the situation.  By confronting quickly you get the issue taken care of and you are able to move on in whatever way you decide.  When you confront slowly, you spend more time stressing over the issue and allow more time for that person to bring others into the issue.
• Deal with conflict face to face – 90% of people with a problem will never tell you about the problem.  No one goes to Tim about our music, no one comes to me about the teaching, etc.  When the do confront the person they are upset about, 99% of the time they do it through e-mail.  I think this is the most spineless thing in the world.  The biggest wuss in the world is a bad dude behind email.  We do NOT get into email exchanges with people.  We set up meetings and handle the situation.
• Don’t take it personal – This one is HARD.  I have learned to learn when confronting people about their problems with me that their problem is normally something different and instead of dealing with that issue that truly is bugging them.  People don’t know how to discuss so they attack.  I don’t take it personally.
• Don’t confront while still angry – I normally try to give 24 hours to allow myself to calm down.  I am very passionate and can break “redneck” real quick.  So what I do my best to go into meetings while not being angry.
• Have another person in the room – I do NOT deal with conflict without either Malcolm or Taylor in the room with me.  Too many people will take what you say and twist it and then it is my word against theirs.  I always have others in the room to see how things unfold.
• Say what you have to say – I do NOT hold back my thoughts.  I say what needs to be said and I am very clear on how we are going to proceed.  Too many guys don’t say what truly needs to be said and that is why they are in conflict with that person again in the future.
• When it is over, it is over – When I leave a meeting with someone, I am done.  I don’t stay angry, I don’t hold grudges, and I don’t keep dealing with the situation.  When we are done with a meeting, I make sure everything has been laid on the table and held nothing back.
• Take the high road – After meetings where I have had to confront someone, I have learned that 75% of the time they will start to bad mouth me.  I will NOT get into a he said/she said with someone.  I will not go around telling what happened to everyone who asks.  I will not defend myself to those who weren’t in the meeting and I will not run down the person who is running me down.

I found this today on another blog, thought it might be a help.

Wayne

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Stop dating around!

Today the Lord made something very clear to me, I was dating around. Now before you start calling my wife and asking her a lot of questions, I am referring to my ministry. As many of you know we are on our way to Middletown NY, but just the other day I was searching for churches in N.Y.C that were looking for a pastor. That might seem like a harmless thing for a guy who is moving up that way anyway , but let me explain. I Wayne Cooke am going to start Hope Baptist Church, Middletown NY, and for me to be looking at other churches/options, would be like me being engaged to Lina, but still playing the field. Church planter, pastor , it is time that we make a commitment and stick with it. I hope that you would not think about keeping your options open when it comes to your marriage. It might be good if when we took a church we would say,” until death do us part.” Just a thought.

Wayne

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